To Be Sincere or Not To Be Sincere

Is saying “I’m sorry” enough to convey empathy and sympathy? 

Going through a tough and very debilitating event in my life so far, I often wonder if those two – or rather 3, considering I’m is a contraction of I am – words are enough to really let the other person know you feel what they feel.

Then, a supplementary questions leaps up inside my head. Are those I’m sorries sincere?

Do we really empathize when emphatic words come out of our mouths automatically?

Perhaps people tend to just blurt out such customary remarks when faced with that situation because it is expected of them. It is the norm and therefore people should follow it even if their hearts are not really into it, which in a way is sad because it only means that the level of empathy people feel nowadays is slowly diminishing. It is replaced by auto-responders that the recipient of said emphatic words feel bad about after a moment of analyzing it.

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Players In The Game

What is “The Game” anyway?

Everything is a game. Life . . . love . . . relationships . . .

There are sets of rules – both written and unwritten – that we get to learn as we mature [for most of us at least]. We never intend to be part of the game but the moment we’re born, we are initiated into it as part of belonging to human society whether we like or not.

If I were given a choice, I wouldn’t want to be a part of the game or be a player. I like being a social misfit too much to conform being one of the billions of people populating the known world in the game.

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Living In The TMI World

With the onslaught of social media taking over most people’s lives, I wonder.

“Are we consciously aware that we are now living in a world full of TMIs?”

For the lay person, TMI stands for Too Much Information. I know . . . I know . . . there are plenty of acronyms and Internet jargon to keep track of. I admit that I turn clueless when someone utters a new acronym and I felt like I’ve been living under a rock because of it. I mean, they’re all over, flying around since the dawn of SMS that we need to cut down our long-winded words to fit the allowed number of characters for each send.

SEGUE: This resulted to children barely able to spell simple words correctly. I lament with their teachers, of course. As an educator myself, I shake my head every time a twelve-year-old kid would misspell a word that I have learned to spell when I was only seven. What happened to quality education? Has standards dropped since I last attended school (and it wasn’t that too long ago!)?

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The Dying Game

We are all players in this game called life.

Life is a game that has so many rules to follow but only one that really speaks for what living is all about – the golden rule.

I have always believed the power to move people behind the words; Do unto others what you want others do unto you.These simple words can make wonders if only people will follow it. This saying may have been found as the basis of the concept of the karmic cycle, but either way, living life should be correspondent to the ultimate impression you want to leave behind.

My goal is to have at least one person to shed genuine tears of loss when I pass away.

There are two deaths in my family recently. My father died on October 7 of heart failure and a granduncle on October 10 of multiple injuries sustained from a circumstantial event. The recent losses took a sorrowful toll on the lives and loves that both men have left behind. I immediately imagined them reunited in the afterlife together with the others who had died before, attending a banquet with an impressive spread of food that they cannot indulge while they were still alive. I imagined them drinking the finest bourbon and reminiscing the memories they had of a life that passed by. I imagined them at peace.

This made me think.

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Less Is More

I love the concept of “Less is more” even if it’s been bandied about almost everywhere; from minimalist design to life lessons.  But even if it has become a quote prostitute, I still consider this simple and poignant saying as a source of inspiration.

three naked people holding placards saying less is more

I have to say, Robert Browning coined it perfectly in his poem “The Faultless Painter” and since then, many connotations have been derived from those three small words that may be meaningless to some, but awfully meaningful to me. It sorted out a lot of gunk in my life.

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